A letter to you, if you have notice your friends miss you…from the other side of the tunnel -a true story.
I’ve always been invested with following up and reaching out to my friends, my chosen family. I like to know how they are, how’s their life and creating new experiences with them. I do this because I love them and I like to give my best on all my relationships.
Most of my best friendships flow easy and breezy, even with friends that I know are pretty busy. The same goes with my most valuable friendship, who we see each other once a year (if we are lucky), but we maintain a respect to each other to always check-in every month. Why? Cause we love each other!
I’m not a perfect friend, but I could say I am a pretty good one. Sometimes, I don’t reach as much as I want to because I also have a life, work and responsibilities. Also, I don’t consider myself a friend who is needy or clingy (yuck!). Nevertheless, I’m reliable, honest, good listener, fun and understanding.
So, with this perspective in mind I have notice as time goes by and memories fade, some of my relationships have become stalled, not because I don’t try, it’s because they don’t.
It’s not an easy thing to swallow and sometimes I feel like giving up. Giving up on the occasional text, giving up the hope when I read “I call you soon” and giving up on the idea of us growing old as “friends forever”.
With that said, here I go…
If you have valuable friends that are always checking up on you (check your phone) and you love them, do them a favor and reach out as well. It’s your darn turn. I’m sure they will be so happy to know about you! Stop making excuses that you don’t have time because probably you are pretty caught up with your favorite shows or maybe with other new friends.
However, if you don’t feel the same way as you used to, stop avoiding the inevitable and stop ghosting them. It hurts. Same goes, if you have unresolved issues with them. It’s better to speak your truth or cut them loose if you don’t feel they fit in your life anymore. That way, they can close that chapter and make space to other rewarding relationships.
Remember, be compassionate…
Hopefully, you have learned in the past months that times goes by, people leave and people die. So, don’t waste anyone’s time and reach out. The universe will be eternally grateful and you will feel much lighter, trust me!
In the other hand, if you are a good friend and going through a similar experience, I leave you with this quote “You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.”— Dale Carnegie 😉
Good radiance all!
xoxo,
Cristina
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