That’s about right… Your reality is reflected in your habits. As humans we have the ability to change our reality, if we don’t like where we are heading. However, it’s not an easy task for many of us. Forming new habits into our probably structure routine takes some time. In the light of this, it’s encouraging to know that the power of change is on us. We can change what is not working anymore and try something new!
Although this perspective can be daunting for some of you, it’s nevertheless pretty straight- forward. I formulate the following questions for you to analyze and answer them whole-hardy.
Sit quietly. Record, type or write your answers…I highly suggest lists when doing these types of exercises.
1. What new habits will you build and what habits will you break? Spend some time analyzing your current life and see what is no longer working anymore. Make a list of the habits you aspire to acquire and another with the habits you are willing to let go. For example, if you often feel bad after you suppress your true feelings by binge watching a show or drinking alcohol, you probably need a change. You need to realized that although these quick resources will make you feel good with your current mood, they don’t have long lasting effects on your well-being. So, you can write on your list of new habit: awareness when I get upset and on the list of habits to break: stop suppressing my feelings.
2. What relationships will you keep investing? Build relationships that put your head up and not down. No long ago, I made a list of the people I have on my life. I put all their attributes and express how they made me feel when I spend time with them. I realized there was a few people that did not contribute positively into my life and I decided to slowly step away until I notice how I feel without them. This time gave me clarity into my relationships and well-being and I am happy to say it work on my favor. I highly encourage you to notice how you feel after spending time with certain people, even if is family. Trust your gut and see how it goes!
3. What non negotiable will you honor? Non negotiable are the things you are not willing to change. For example, the time you spend with your family, going to church, exercise, etc.. Make 2 lists: things you won’t change and things you want to let go. Concentrate on things that make you feel more positive and let go of anything that makes you feel down and regretful. For example, if you enjoy reading and always makes you feel great make more time everyday to form a habit of reading, instead of scrolling social media, watching awful news or watching too much tv. Step by step!
I suggest to look at your lists every week and see how far you have come. Step by step, day by day. Change in your habits is possible. You can be the person on top of your well-being. On top of your feelings, relationships, work and health. You got this!
xoxo,
Cristina
To read:
Book: The Power of Habits: Why We Do What We Do in Life and Business
