I have always being fascinated with the life cycle of the butterflies. For those who don’t know, the butterfly and moth develop through a process called metamorphosis. This is a Greek word that means transformation or change in shape. There are four stages in the metamorphosis of butterflies and moths: egg, larva, pupa, and adult.
You may think, What the cycle of the butterfly has to do with the things she have learned? Well, let me explain:
For the past couple years I been feeling like I’m changing. Lately I’ve felt so weird. The feeling is getting stronger. Like If I’m changing from a little pupa to being an adult butterfly. Like this change is going to shape my life like I never imagine it. I still feel I’m myself, but different. Better.
So, for example: Before you were born, you were an egg. Then when you were a kid and teenager, you were a larva. All you did was eat and eat. Now in my case, I’m my late 20’s and I feel like a pupa. The pupa stops eating (not literal in this case) and starts growing. This stage can last from a few weeks, a month or up to 2 years.
I have felt the change since I was 26, but now is stronger. For the pupa it may look like nothing is going on but big changes are happening inside. That’s exactly how I feel. I’m feeling like I’m becoming an adult butterfly. I’m aware I can’t fly and I don’t feel like spreading my eggs anytime soon, but I feel more myself, a mature woman. A woman who is secure of herself and her actions.
This is few things I’ve learned in the process:
1. We’re just passing through life. Yep, we are just passengers.
2. Enjoy the moment. Why taking life so seriously?
3. Connecting with someone is very hard, but if you do, try hard to keep them around.
4. Being alone is good for your soul. Take a few times a week to think of what you have accomplished.
5. Writing heals all the wounds. Time too.
6. Reading books can help you look life in a different way. Learn from them.
7. You aren’t alone. Everybody has unanswered questions.
8. Stop judging. Stop complaining. And stop being jealous. What a nasty habit!
9. Love yourself first. In other to understand other, you must understand yourself.
10. Be grateful. You have health, food, a bed, and people that love you. Count this blessings.
11. Believe in God. Even if you don’t see him, he is there.
12. Enjoy the moment you have with the loves ones. Give that hug, that kiss and tell them you love them.
13. Laugh as hard as you can. Even if you cry.
14. Stop expecting something in return. You may never get it. If you want to do something, do it because you want to.
15. Speak how you feel. Why holding up the words? Why people are so afraid of what others may think?
16. Don’t be afraid of who you are. Be you.
17. Surround yourself with positive people. A MUST!
18. What doesn’t kill you, definitively makes you stronger. Pain = Gain.
19. You can’t control what people do and say. Sometimes is better to let go.
20. Being happy is a choice, but only if you really want it, this will happen.
Any change is difficult to digest.
I feel it has been a long process for me. I’ve made some mistakes. I have fallen on the floor and walk again. I have cry and laughed; and I know I will keep changing as situations comes my way.
So, I decided to embrace it and even if I can’t fly, at least I enjoy the ride. Another thing I learned, “don’t deny what you feel inside. Don’t build grudges with your own self.”
Ufff I’m deep these days. Ok haha have a good week! 🙂
xoxo,
Cristina
