Men vs. women friendships…

I am lucky to have really good friends of both genders. I have the greatest time with both of them and their company is extremely important in my life. However, I’ve realized that men are less dramatic than women and sometimes I prefer to hangout with the “boys” instead of the “girls” (don’t kill me!!).

Although friendships between the genders are essentially the same, certain qualities typically characterize each form of friendship.  I’m going to make a list for the cons and pros of friendship with men and women.

MEN

Cons:

Not very sensitive.

Don’t care much about your heartbreaks.

Disappearance for months and forget to ask “how are you?”

Act like nothing’s changed although I may have had a child.

Men talk way too much about women. Especially their asses.

May have no manners on terms of bursting gas or talking with a full mouth.

Men can’t talk about the same subject for more than 10 minutes.

Jokes, insults, and verbal and physical aggression can happen.

May develop feelings for you.

Pros:

NO drama.

Don’t complain, barely.

Don’t ask me if I think they’re fat.

I can have an amazing time and it’s not going to be ruined with a stupid fight.

NOT sensitive if I say “go to hell”.

Get ready (dress) very fast.

Don’t cry frequently.

Not needy.

Don’t ask me “why don’t you call?” or “why you didn’t return my text?”.

If I disappear for months they are happy to see me and they don’t feel like our friendship has changed.

I can get drunk with them and the conversation will not end with a subject about an Ex.

WOMEN

Cons:

Needy.

Can write a long email explaining why you are a bad friend.

Tent to criticize or judge you, sometimes behind your back

Can talk behind your back

Show offs

Drama!!

Things can easily become complicated or way too intense

Takes a lot of effort to maintain a long-lasting relationship with other women

Could be jealous of you, your success or your life even though they don’t say anything

Make a stupid fight out of nothing

A handful are sensitive

Some are superficial

Could be disloyal and hook up with one of your ex’s.

Can develop feelings for you too. lol

Pros:

They’re always there for you.

We can talk for hours.

We have special secret codes.

Women are sensitive about other people’s feelings.

They listen and understand.

There is non-aggressive physical contact such as hugging and sitting close together.

They can watch a show or movies with you for hours.

Women will be there if your heart is broken.

They call and care for you.

A sense of attachment; female friends are more likely to perceive their friendships as personal and intense.

Openness and verbal expression of emotions, personal thoughts, and opinions.

They can be your friends for years.

Conclusion:

Female friendships are thought to be closer because women share their deepest feelings and engage in extended one-on-one communication more often. However, male friendships are seen as more stable because men view their friendship as a team and thus work together to keep the relationship afloat.

In the other hand, it’s likely that whether you believe male friendships or female friendships are of a higher quality depends on your expectations and values in an interpersonal relationship.

Ps. I hope no one takes this blog post personal. The pros and cons are a recap of some of my friends and personal experiences. With that said, what do you think?

Have a great Wednesday!

xoxo,

Cristina