How do you fall in love?
You don’t fall in love like you fall in a hole. You fall like falling through space. It’s like you jump off your own private planet to visit someone else’s planet. And when you get there it all looks different: the flowers, the animals, the colours people wear. It is a big surprise falling in love because you thought you had everything just right on your own planet, and that was true, in a way, but then somebody signalled to you across space and the only way you could visit was to take a giant jump. Away you go, falling into someone else’s orbit and after a while you might decide to pull your two planets together and call it home. And you can bring your dog. Or your cat. Your goldfish, hamster, collection of stones, all your odd socks. (The ones you lost, including the holes, are on the new planet you found.)
And you can bring your friends to visit. And read your favourite stories to each other. And the falling was really the big jump that you had to make to be with someone you don’t want to be without. That’s it.
PS You have to be brave.
~lovely!
by Jeanette Winterson in Big Questions from Little People & Simple Answer from Great Minds.
xoxo,
Cristina
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Very sweet 🙂
Sweet! And we have the same name 🙂
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Yes! Thank you 🙂
I love this !! I have trouble with this ever since I got dumped it’s been 3 years since dating or being in a relationship and I can’t get past the part where I could say yes to a guy. A guy I was talking to for a while told me I need to fix myself and I don’t know what to do how do I learn to fall in love again , I want to try again.
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I have learned a lot by dating and being in relationships. Nobody has magic spell to let go of past experiences and just to start dating again. What I have definitely learned is that love can be complicated only if you think it is. First, you have to take care of yourself. Let go of the past. Learn to forgive yourself and others. You need to figure what you really want out of a relationship. What you have that is pretty great? You want to try again! That’s amazing. Don’t be afraid what you find out there. Just have open eyes and follow your gut. Take things slow. Take the time to actually know someone. Trust you instinct. I know it sounds more easy than it is, but is possible. I have done it. Take strength and believe in yourself. And to the guy who told you to fix yourself tell him to fck off (sorry for my french). You don’t need nobody’s validation, only the one you have for yourself. If you need any advice I’m here. I’m just a girl like you going through the same stuff. Have a great day! 🙂