Every year around Christmas time a lot of people start doing lists of goals and dreams for their new year. Some people are really diligent in the earlier months. However, most people never seem to commit to a list for the rest of the year. Their routine and steady habits take control of their lives.
As a consequence, I believe we can start creating goals and new habits every-damn time we want to. When it comes to look at my habits and usually create a list from time to time to see where I am and what can be done a bit better. I found out there’s so many healthier ones, and also some nasty ones. By observing and hearing people around me I narrowed some nasty habits that I think people will be better off. Also, I give you a few pointers to fix them a bit.
Nasty habits, go away…
1. Complaining is annoying – Not long ago I caught myself complaining too much to a point somebody told me “what are you doing about it?” That question made me realized that people who complain should find solutions to their annoyance. So, I started building an awareness when I felt like complaining and created solutions to my “problems”. The result? 1- I feel good that I’m not annoying any loved one with words that can be fixed. 2- I feel more confident to find solutions to my problems, instead of complaining about them.
2. Negativity push people away – No one wants to be surrounded by people who are always dragging the spirit down or by people who have nothing good to say about anything. It’s a total downer. I’ve hangout with people like this and I had felt overwhelmed afterwards. If you feel negative most of the time, I suggest to find a few healthy habits; like nature time, reading, watching a funny show, having a whole hearted conversation (not complaining!), eating a delicious meal and the list goes on. If you feel negative most of the time I suggest talking to a professional helper so you feel your best self!
3. See the BIG picture – Sometimes we get involved with the feeling we experience in certain situations that we forget that to every situation there’s always a solution or another side of the story. We should focus on the results instead on the possibility of failure. When I don’t have a clear mind I always enjoy a walk to clear my thoughts or I write my feelings down. These healthier habits makes me see the bigger picture and also, makes me realized everything in life is transitory.
4. Gossip is like venom – A psychology research said that gossiping is good for people because instead on focusing on themselves they focus in talking about others and this lower their stress level. For me, it’s like creating a story you don’t know anything at all with the trustful facts. I don’t feel good when I gossip, and yes I’ve done it in the past, but believe me is not rewarding. No one wants to find out that others are talking about them behind their back. Don’t be that person, choose the higher road.
5. Your body is your temple – We have one body, might as well treat it right. For example, take extra care of your feet, wash your hair regularly, put healthy products into and in your body, drink water, and whatever else that makes you feel you good. Try to quit any nasty habits that are not helping your persona. Treat your body right and you will feel a big improvement in your mood!
6. Overthinking ruins happiness – Sometimes we rethink way too much certain situations. We often get anxious about the future, dwell on the past and we don’t enjoy the present. In order to be happier we must try to live on the present moment and not on the past or the future. I know is difficult as hell! However, we need to realized that because over thinking comes from our subconscious and his friends: fears, nostalgia and insecurities; we need to put an extra effort to tell our mind “ok that’s enough”. A good exercise is to write down how you feel and why these emotions are having an impact in your life.
8. Say what you feel – In the past years I’ve learned that not saying how you feel will hold up to the person you want to be. You can start practicing open hearted communication with those close to you until you eventually feel free to speak your mind.
The list can go on, however, I always suggest to start small. Look at all the habits and see which ones you need improvement and make a conscious effort to move forward to a happier and healthier you!
Thanks for reading!:)
xoxo,
Cristina
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