By pleasing others we sometimes forget we also have to please ourselves. The other day I was encountering an experience where a family member of mine was being negative towards me about a decision in my life. Of course this hurt me a lot, but someone in this process told me this:
“think about your own happiness and forget about everything else.”
This is so right!!! Sometimes we reach for the approval or the encouragement of others to be happy, but if you think about it we don’t really need it. I’m not saying this is easy to absorb because if we are happy we want to share our happiness with the people we love, but we can’t forget that they are going to be times where some people aren’t going to be that supportive or genuinely happy for us.
So, I decided to seek my own happiness even if I’m not feeling encouraged by a person I love.
Follow this steps in no necessary order:
Step 1 – Distract yourself – Go out! Doesn’t matter where. Pick people that lift you up, that are positive and are super happy for your accomplishments. I highly recommend having dinner, few drinks and dance the night away, but that’s my way of doing it… you can either stay home with friends and watch a movie. The point is to relax yourself and have fun!
Step 2 – A day for you – For example I did a manicure, went to the salon and bought really cool outfits for Spring. You don’t have to do my beauty ritual (lol), but even if is having dinner by yourself you should take this time. Take care of yourself. Think about what you want and what makes you happy. Clear your mind. Do what you love and do it alone.
Step 3 – Stop over-analyzing – Some situations require time to heal. Stop analyzing what you can’t change in the moment. Simply just let it be and eventually things will smooth and you will feel better. Remember you want to be happy, don’t let other bring you down. Say bye-bye to negative vibes. BYE!!
Step 4 – Remember that Happiness comes from you – You don’t need anyone to be happy. Of course human contact is necessary, but I mean if you wake up every morning happy or if you have some amazing news – enjoy it! Don’t let anyone take that moment from you. At the end, this is your live.
Hope you have a wonderful time with yourself and enjoy this amazing weekend!!!
xoxo,
Cristina
