As I grow older I realized the importance to have good people in my life and when it comes to relationships I started raising the bar a little bit and having a higher standard of what type of partner I want to be part of my life. But, that’s just me and I know everybody is different. Some people just settle for less. I done this on the past too, but I learned my lesson and I know when is right to move on.
“Genuine love is rarely and emotional space where needs are instantly gratified. To know love we have to invest time and commitment… ‘dreaming that love will save us, solve all our problems or provide a steady state of bliss or security only keeps us stuck in wishful fantasy, undermining the real power of the love— which is to transform us.’ Many people want love to function like a drug, giving them an immediate and sustained high. They want nothing, just passively receive the good feeling.” Bell Hooks
As I talk to some of my friends I notice how some of them are just settling for way less. If we dream to have a partner that is not just a booty call, that introduce us with pride to his friends and family and someone who can we feel happier with…why settling for a partner who doesn’t give us that and what we really want?
My answer to this: the fear of being alone. Feeling alone sometimes scares us. I learned so much since my last relationship. I have embrace my aloneness. I have cry missing a hug or a kiss, but also I have enjoyed my time alone. Being single is fun too. We can’t be scared to be with ourselves. It’s very important to have that time for us to realize what we really want and who we really are. By doing this we can save ourselves so much heartache.
Also, I prefer being alone than being with someone who is giving me a headache, someone who I can’t trust or someone who really is not that into me. We have to love ourselves enough to not settle. WE HAVE TO! We could save hours and energy analyzing a meaningless relationship that isn’t going nowhere. We are better than this. You know it and I know it.
“Don’t settle for nobody so you can have somebody”
Have a good day!
xoxo,
Cristina
