Claudia* says to me: “Yeah, Saturday I went to his amazing party and met a lot of new people.. I had a blast!”…. Did she? I had a hard time believing her. She spend all Saturday night in her couch watching “How to lose a guy in 10 days” and went to bed at 12:15 a.m. Why she lied to me (even if is a white lie)? Maybe she felt the necessity to tell me a lie to feel better about herself… or she assume I will think “she’s cool” because she went out. I don’t care about that… what I care is that she is happy and doing well. So, I ask myself: Why people lie?
“He who permits himself to lie once, find it much easier to do it a second and third time, till at length it becomes habitual.” Thomas Jefferson
I’m not going to say I’m a saint. I have lied before especially to my parents when I was younger (sorry)…but now I don’t see the point of lying anymore. I’m not ashamed of the things I do with my life and if I don’t want people to know my personal life I simply reserve my stuff and if they keep asking, I just say “it’s personal”.
“I’m not upset that you lie to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you anymore.” Me
Hi, I’m Cristina and sincerely dislike liars! I don’t see the point of faking who you are. Doesn’t help you as a person and doesn’t help me to get to know you better. I simply don’t like the idea of getting to know a person that at the end it’s not who I thought they were. Also, I feel like a wasted my valuable time. So, what I think is that people lie because they are insecure of who they are and the only way they can feel better is to lie to others with a “lie” that is better from their own reality. Really, really sad!
People that lie have a lot to lose : the trust of others! In my case, if a person lies to me and later I found out it’s going to be very difficult for me to trust them again and like one of my friends told me “trust is the only thing that money can’t buy.” Not only that, lying doesn’t help build a healthy self-esteem because people create a fake life and. At the end of the day they lose the line of acknowledging what is real and what is not.
“The trust may hurt a little while but a lies hurts forever” Anonymous
For all the liars in the world try to seek a little help if you can’t help yourself…. it’s better to find out why you lie and it’s better to have people who cares and trust you for WHO YOU ARE, not the fake version. I hope my friend reads this post and reflects a little about herself.
Have a good day!
xoxo,
Cristina
