Hope you’re having a great week! So, I went out this past week with my friends and I don’t know what the guys were drinking, but I could see they were pretty lame when came to approaching a women. So, I decided to give advice to YOU, the guys. I want to help you, maybe you are pretty good guy, but your technique is weak. Some men do know how to approach a woman, but for those of you who don’t they take the chance to lose her in 10 seconds. Here is some advice:
Guys, please DO NOT do this if you’re approaching a woman:
Situation 1- Woman is with her friends…Guy approaches a guy of the group and says this to him: “Please hook me up with your friend” —ekk no, no! So coward! You think that my friend is my pimp?
Situation 2- Guy pulls a woman their hair. Seriously, not cool guys. This hurts and is very childish! The only way you can pull a woman’s hair is in bed. ehh ok haha
Situation 3- Guy approaches a woman super drunk and talks gibberish or do something stupid. This is not sexy at all (this applies to both genres).
Situation 4- Saying something cheesy, like: “I must be in heaven because you look like an angel” ehhhh wth?
Situation 5- Saying something NOT cheesy: “You look like a vampire… I want you to suck me (pause) or bite me”… gross!!!
Situation 6- Saying something super unreal and think we want to hear that, like: “Omg, your beautiful, I want to marry you, please let me take you out for dinner” Whattt???? Come back to the real world, dude!
Situation 7- Woman is in a club/bar and a guy comes at 2:30 a.m. and says: “Hi, my name is ___ “What do you do?” Where do you live?”….STOP IT! 1. is late 2. no small talk at that hour, she’s there to enjoy her time 3. if you’re going to do the talking, just talk about the event or something related= fun subjects.
Situation 8- Guy “accidentally” bumps into the woman. Really? This may work with some women if you don’t hit her hard and say something like “I’m sorry”. But, I honestly don’t like it. Look where you are walking…I’m going to think you’re clumsy or drunk.
Situation 9- Woman dancing and a guy come out of nowhere to dance with her or even worse wraps her from behind. Hey, hey stop this! Who are you? Who gives you permission to do that? Maybe he is on situation #3
Situation 10- Guy hits on her friend first before hitting on the women “he likes”. Ehhh that doesn’t work. Unless you’re a trying to double hook (good luck with that!). She will think that you’re a player.
Situation 11- Woman goes to lunch and a guy stares at her, she leaves and the guy starts following her until she arrives at her job and then he disappears. Wait!!! Stalker much?! Don’t do that, seriously it’s creepy and you’re going to scare her away.
Situation 12- Woman is with her friends and guy goes to her and says: “Is that your boyfriend?” You can do better than that”. What? Who the hell are you? Maybe he is in situation #3.
What to do instead?
I think the best way to approach a woman is being yourself with no pressure. You don’t know the person, so you can be confident in a friendly matter. Don’t overdo it and don’t make those mistakes (and I know there’s more mistakes, but I just name the ones my friends and I had experienced).
Just relax and enjoy a good conversation or just make her laugh. Be creative! Keep it short and if she’s ignoring you, please have some dignity and go. If is not the case, ask her phone before she leaves and say something like: “It was a pleasure meeting you…I think we should hangout more and get to know each other better” and if you say “This was fun, we should do it again” = big plus! Also, a big plus when she approaches you first- anything is possible!
Hope everything works out!
xoxo,
Cristina
